Right from the Start

Won't you spoil her? If spoiling is “ruining” a child so that she's not developing optimally and may end up being difficult, then leaving her to cry uncomforted is what will “spoil” her. Your goal is to raise a cheerful, well adjusted, adaptable child, who becomes increasingly independent and able to handle age-appropriate developmental tasks, right?

What do babies need?  Their parents.  Not the cute baby clothes you got at the shower.  Not the baby swing, or seat, or crib.  Not even diapers.  You may need all that.  But your baby needs his parents.

What do parents need?  Your job is to love, protect, nurture and guide your baby from infancy to adulthood.  But what do you need to do that effectively, to love doing it?  Even more than a good night’s sleep, what you need is a great relationship with your child. 

Attachment Parenting is a parenting style that focuses on meeting the infant’s need for a close relationship with his parents. 

But attachment parenting is only the beginning. Connection parenting takes over as your baby becomes a toddler, exploring her world and testing her wings -- but still fiercely needing her connection with you to provide a secure base.  Connection parenting builds a close parent-child relationship that will take you and your child from toddlerhood through the teen years, and way beyond.  Connection parenting helps you create the relationship you want with your son or daughter, for the rest of your life.

But right now, I assume, you’re reading this because you have a baby.  Even toddlerhood probably seems very far off.  Right now, you just need to know what attachment parenting is, and whether it’s right for you.

Attachment parenting has many devotees and certainly some who disparage it.  The articles below explain what attachment parenting is and how to put it into practice. You’ll read about the criticisms of attachment parenting and the defenses, the myths and the most commonly asked questions.  You’ll learn strategies and techniques that have worked for other parents.  And if you want, you can learn more about the scientific research that has convinced me that Attachment Parenting is the best thing for babies, and for their parents.

Each link below takes you to an article with more specifics about how Attachment Parenting can help you become the parent you've always dreamed of being. I hope they help you to strengthen the most rewarding relationship you’ll ever have … the one with your child.