You did it! A couple of weeks ago,thousands of mothers emailed their U.S. Representatives urging them to vote YES for the Federal Employees Paid Parental Leave Act (HR 5781), and... the bill passed the House!

If this bill passes the senate, federal workers will finally receive four weeks of paid leave when they birth or adopt a child. If we pass this bill for federal employees, we'll be one step closer to paid family leave for everyone.  We might even catch up to England, France, Canada, and every other country we usually compare ourselves to.  Who can argue with the need for mothers to bond with their new babies?  Did you know that when you have a baby in France, you not only get paid time off to bond, the government also sends someone to help with housework and laundry so you can rest?!

The organization taking the lead on this is MomsRising.com, which recently helped New Jersey and Washington state  make history by passing paid leave policies.  A special thank you is also due to the National Partnership for Women & Families for all the amazing work they're doing on this and many other issues.  And in my own home state, New York,  Working Families has been keeping paid family leave on the agenda and pressuring the legislature.

The next step now is to push this bill through the U.S. Senate. We need your help.  Your Senators need to hear from you now, while the bill is hot out of the House, to show that moms care and to give this bill a boost forward.

Take action at MomsRising.org.

If you need more info, here's some background:

Everyone needs paid family and medical leave and it's past time to start putting this policy in place.  We know that paid family leave helps provide children with a healthy start and keep families out of poverty.  Yet, the United States lags behind every developed country in the world in offering paid leave to new mothers. 

It's time for the federal government to become a model employer by offering their workforce paid parental leave, and to pave the way for the rest of the nation to follow.  With more than 1.8 million civilian employees, the federal government is the nation's largest employer.  Currently, federal workers don't have any guarantee of paid leave for the birth or adoption of a child.  Some have accrued paid sick or vacation time that they may be able to use while on unpaid FMLA leave.  However, others, especially younger workers who haven't accrued sick or vacation time, have no choice but to take unpaid leave.

If passed, the Federal Employees Paid Parental Leave Act guarantees qualifying federal workers four weeks of paid parental leave for the birth or adoption of a new child.  It would also enable federal workers to use up to eight weeks of accrued paid sick time immediately following the first four weeks of parental leave.

First federal employees, then the rest of the people in our nation! 

How do you know whether your teen is just exhibiting normal teen behavior, versus showing you symptoms of a problem that will keep him or her from developing into a happy successful adult?   All of the indicators below can be normal in a given context, such as a family move or change in schools.  But if you see any of these indicators, it's time to take a second look at what's going on in your teen's life, and see if it's time for a positive intervention.

"The babies won't remember the experience, so it won't hurt them."  So goes the justification for NBC's new reality series, "The Baby Borrowers," in which babies and toddlers are sold by their parents to be mishandled by teenagers for days at a time.

What year is this?  We now have almost a century of research showing that babies and toddlers are impacted for life by early separations, which, by definition, they don't remember.  

During WW2, John Bowlby documented the stages of grieving in babies and toddlers who were temporarily left with unfamiliar care-givers, from initial protest to confusion to despair.  These kids were more vulnerable, later in life, to anxiety, panic and mood disorders as well as alcoholism. Neuroscientific research in the past five years has documented the permanent brain changes that result from early separations and other traumas and which underlie these adult mental illnesses.

Producers of this show may justify it by claiming they're teaching birth control, but let's be clear:  letting these teens sleep in the same bed night after night hardly gives that message.  NBC is after ratings.  And the parents of these babies and toddlers?  They should be prosecuted.